Two Steps Forward…

And about half a dozen back.  That’s been this week for us.  A has been sick so sadly some of our progress with food went flying out the windows (at least they were open so no cleaning was required!).   She had been eating grapefruit and Mandarin oranges, but not so much now.  So…we are slowly working our way back to acceptance of the “scary” foods.  You know, things like chicken, pork, beef, and <gasp> EGGS!  Seriously, eggs are traumatizing.

Okay, you can stop laughing now.  Moving on…

A couple of weeks ago, I bought an avocado in a vain attempt to introduce a higher calorie but somewhat nutritious food to A’s diet. Well, apparently a green and slightly mushy food does not rank highly on her list of things to eat.  I had to get her an entirely new plate for the rest of her lunch and even then she was to upset to really eat.  Talk about a bad reaction.  Did I dare try again or was this the end of the avocado fiasco?

Of course not!  I mean why give up there when I could hide it in her food somehow?  That would work, right?  I could slip it into her pasta sauce, wait, she doesn’t eat anything that involves pasta.  Right.  Oh!  How about in oatmeal?  Nope, gags on oatmeal.  Cancel that one.  How about meat…nevermind – there’s meat involved it’s sure to go flying.  Beginning to see my difficulty here?  Well, I finally realized that her peanut butter sandwich was my only alternative since, let’s face it, strawberry yogurt and avocado just do not belong together, and yes, I did try that one too (not recommended at all!).   So, I fixed her a peanut butter and avocado sandwich.  I spread the avocado on the bread nice and thin under the peanut butter and then added a bit of honey  to sweeten things up.  Worked great, until she decided that her sandwich needed to be taken apart so she could scrape off the peanut butter with her finger.  A refused to eat sandwiches for the rest of the week.

Lesson learned?  Nope, I still try vainly to slip foods in when she’s not paying attention, even if it is from my plate. The only result of this is that she won’t eat anything off my plate – which isn’t entirely a bad thing!

This seems funny in retrospect, but it’s just one of many small battles we face every single day.  I can tell funny stories all day long about our feeding fiascos, but living with it is anything but fun.  You worry constantly that your child is getting enough and you wonder what more you can do for them or what you might be missing that they need.  It’s even harder when your child cannot communicate to tell you what they want.  Some days you feel like a horrible parent even when you know you’re not.

There are days though, when suddenly she eats something she wouldn’t touch before and likes it and wants it constantly.  Miraculously her menu options expand, and even if it is only oranges or Jell-O, you feel like dancing and jumping up and down and telling everyone you know – even if they do look at you funny because they don’t understand just how much this means.  The relief that you feel and the joy of seeing your child who used to cry over Jell-O or oranges suddenly eating it is beyond explanation.

That’s what you have to hold onto.  That’s what makes those days when you think she won’t eat anything, no matter what you do, bearable. It’s the one thing I can hold onto and say that even if she doesn’t eat something today, she did yesterday.  And because she did yesterday, she just might again tomorrow.


4 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. Toni
    Mar 14, 2012 @ 05:05:03

    Hey sensoryadventures I love,like,think you have a great site.



  2. sensoryadventures
    Feb 06, 2012 @ 21:01:19

    Thanks – it is hard to find resources on sensory kids and eating. I look forward to the day when my daughter is able to actually tell me what she wants or why she doesn’t like something. It will take a lot of guesswork out of things for us. Thank you for sharing!



  3. Juana Bee
    Feb 05, 2012 @ 22:53:14

    I’ve been struggling to get my daughter to eat anything that’s not made with flour. Dry cereal, peanut butter and jelly sandwiches, pita bread… some days it seems like that’s all she eats. She complained about her tummy hurting, and concluded herself that she needed to eat more different kinds of food. I rejoiced when she said she thought broccoli would do the trick. I bought her a chicken pot pie – which she loved in the past – that had extra broccoli in it. She devoured the crust, and nibbled ever so slightly on the one piece of broccoli sticking out of the top. That was that. She was done with the pot pie. And the broccoli.

    Long story short, I feel your pain. I really love the book, “Preventing Eating Problems In Children” ( because it’s all about putting the kids back in control of their eating (and isn’t that what kids with sensory issues need, more control?). But I wish there was more on how to deal with sensory stuff. It is touched on, though.

    Thanks for sharing!



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